Comments on: Time to grow up ‘man-boy’

By: kate

kate — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 06:17:40 +0000

I honestly have a boyfriend that plays videogames with his friends afterschool… Honestly that’s WHAT they do, if not video games, drinking and chewing at the same time. I want a man that knows how to throw a damn football. All i think of is, when he gets out of highschool and goes to college that maybe he will do something with his life because he wants to be a doctor…but honestly is it worth the wait, what if it’s video games for him….and then failure for me. I love the article. I’m sick of lazy asses that don’t know how to work. I worked my ass off and still continue to try. I can’t stand people who don’t make themselves have a life

By: Brian

Brian — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 17:23:10 +0000

I have to say I don’t agree with these comments.

Speaking as a gamer, with a very successful job in finance, I find that playing games a couple of hours a week (perhaps between 4-10 hours) is not only incredibly relaxing, but just also a great opportunity to chat with friends for a few hours and catch up while we play; either in person, or over the microphone.

I don’t find that these games are detrimentally affecting my social life in any way, as I’m always willing to drop a controller in favor of a night out. I definitely spend more time going out for a beer and laughs with family and friends than I do spending time playing video games. Not only that, but I find that a lot of my friends are just like me in that respect.

I don’t think i’m a “hero” (i’m definitely cognisant that i’m just playing a game), and in no sense living a “sad life” in real life.

Playing games is no different from many other hobbies, whether it be shopping, chatting on the phone, fixing up the car, etc. It’s an activity which can be quite social (and sometimes not), and keeps you relaxed. It’s entertaining and gives a sense of fulfillment when you are able to beat that extra hard boss, or narrowly edge out a victory on your friend while playing a game of NHL.

Yes, there are definitely gamers out there without much going on in their “real lives,” but a lot of the best athletes, musicians, doctors and business people in the world play video games. Why not focus on some of these people as well, and stop stereotyping what the life of a Gamer is?

By: Stacey Rodney

Stacey Rodney — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 19:52:39 +0000

I dated a guy who played these games at night and on weekends. I lived with him for three months and he was on the computer all the time. I finally came to my sense and dumped his sorry ass and kicked him to the left.

I do use his Wii for the fitness program though. I don’t know if it is the same thing, but I really like doing the workouts. Maybe I’m becoming a 15-year old boy?

I agree with Tina’s comment. I think that men and the women who date them, have a self-esteem issue if they can’t find anything better to do then play these video games.

By: Tina Abbott

Tina Abbott — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 19:49:56 +0000

I doubt that any of these guys have girlfriends anyway. Is there really women attracted to this type of guy? I’m guessing for both the men (and the women that date them) it’s a question of self-esteem. I think there is probably a direct correlation between guys who play these games more than 5 hours a week and very poor people skills.

A guy that I work with plays an online game called Warcraft. He has his own ‘nickname’ and talks with the other guys in our office about things he wins, tools he buys, etc., and it is all referring to this ‘online world’ where he is king. I feel very sad for him.

Tina.

p.s. When is there going to be a “Flett Rant” show on the radio? These periodic spots on the Beat 94.5 aren’t enough for me! Keep going Flett!

By: Viviana Sutton

Viviana Sutton — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 19:09:49 +0000

I always knew that gamers annoyed me, but now that I’ve read this (truly awesome) rant, I can add a new dimension to my annoyance. Somehow I missed the parallel that these “guys” are not just checking out of real life: they are measuring their accomplishments in the realm of gaming and calling them life accomplishments.

By: Katy

Katy — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 18:15:51 +0000

Hi Chris!
Hmmmm, this one makes me pause for a moment, as I know a lot of 30+ yr old men who play Xbox360! When they play those games where they play live against other players around the world, then I think that’s actually a nifty way to connect with new people.

I don’t know, what guys do in their spare time is their business. I guess if it starts affecting their work, then yah, they should grow up and get a handle on it.

Katy

By: chris

chris — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 15:37:19 +0000

Samantha, I haven’t met one of these gamers that has anything noteable going on in their lives. I think that the virtual world is much more kind to Beta males than the real world is.

Lisa, thanks for the note. I’m writing for a handful of blogs and often forget to put my ‘R’ rated comments here. I’m looking to get a little more active next year. In the meantime, piss off!

Cheers,
C/

By: Lisa Ellenos

Lisa Ellenos — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 15:33:50 +0000

I don’t think it is a big deal if guys get together to play RockBand during a party, but it is a bit creepy for all these guys who play online games with people around the world. How do these guys get girlfriends? I’m guessing online dating?

p.s. I liked your last post, but what’s with your infrequent posts? I like a Flett Rant to finish off my week. Let’s get a schedule going Mr. Flett!!

By: Samantha Strong

Samantha Strong — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 15:31:30 +0000

Great point Chris. I don’t get why these guys won’t grow up. Maybe they don’t have lives? I can’t understand women attracted to these types of guys. My friend’s husband plays a game called Halo every week with his friends. He’s 34!!! For this, as well as other reasons, total loser.