What to do when people don’t meet your expectations.
I’ve seen it all in business this year. Drama queens, crying babies, emotionally uncontrolled outbursts, and that’s just the guys. I find myself forcing myself to be a swim instructor, when people are looking for a lifeguard. I don’t get why people can’t follow easy to understand rules. I have clients right now that are walking the gray line with me. They know the rules and they are one toe in and one toe out. Little do they know, they are on their way out. It isn’t personal, it’s business. When I start caring more then they do, it’s time to finish the relationship.
A week ago I was meeting with the big kahuna of a company here in Vancouver. His staff are either top performers or deck meat. He doesn’t know what to do with the deck meat to get them into becoming performers. I asked him if he had clearly stated his expectations. He felt that he had. Upon further probing, he allows bad behaviour so that becomes the norm. Not unlike kids. You can’t let them run with scissors on one day and tell them it’s wrong the next. You need to clearly let them know what you expect of them. Same goes with your colleagues, clients, and employees. He asked me, “what would happen if your employee showed up late for work?” I told them I would write them up and the next time they would be fired. He seemed shocked at this. Here’s the thing. I tell everyone that I work with that I don’t like late. It is disrespectful and if they do it to me (who they work for) they would do it to a client. I don’t like this. If a client is late for me, they are likely late for their clients. I also don’t like this.
Once you outline what your expectations are of people, they will either meet them or not. If they can’t you get rid of them. Clients and employees the same. There will be excuses. These sub-performers will have a lot of excuses for you. if they put the time into having higher standards that they did into explaining why they can’t do something, they’d be successful. But it isn’t your job to change them. If they don’t want to come up to your standards, then natural selection comes into place.
I spent time with a friend that owns a landscaping business. He talked about the lack of work ethic and the copious amount of excuses he gets from domestic labour. Immigrant labour works their assess off, but the guys around here show up 5 minutes late, take an extra 10 minutes for lunch, and simply don’t have high standards for themselves. I’ve been hiring firms in India and Russia ovet the last two quarters. Aside from the work being disgustingly affordable, the work ethic and production is second to none. They get it done because they want more from me. They exceed my expectations to the point where I’m walking around looking for work to give them.
If you find that people aren’t meeting your expectation and you are frustrated (like I am), ask yourself the following questions:
- Have I been clear on what I’m asking for?
- Does the person have the ability to do what I’m asking?
- Deep down, does any part of me question their competency?
- Am I allowing them to overstep my boundaries or are they causing me to break my own rules?
- How much time/stress/energy am I wasting managing this relationship?
- How good would it feel to get rid of this person?
- If I had a better replacement ready to go, how long would it take me to fire this person from my life?
- Is this person a problem or a solution to me?
- Do I look forward to seeing this person?
I’m sure these questions work as well in the personal arena as they do in the professional. Don’t let boat anchors take up space in your professional life. If they can’t get it done, burn them and replace them with someone who wants to be the best and works hard to get there. If there is one thing that reverts me to the old Alpha Male traits that I talk about in What Men Don’t Tell Women About Business, it’s people that waste my time, overstep my boundaries, or can’t get it done. I don’t want excuses. I want you to tell me: A) I can get it done. or B) I can’t get it done. If you can get it done, then do so. If you can’t, then piss off and make room for someone who can.
Cheers,
C/
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“All fired up, I’m gonna go till I drop
You’re either in or in the way
Don’t make me, I don’t wanna stop”
I Don’t Wanna Stop
Ozzy Osborne, Black Rain
Hey I’m curious about something….. have a team member who always plays hard and can be counted on to do what they say they will do, but has come up against something that they know they do not, as of yet, have the ability to provide for you, this person is the man who wants to learn and will learn if given the opportunity what do you do with them in that scenario when they tell you they cannot provide what you ask
Kristie,
I play hardball with guys (actually harder then with women IF they are alpha males). I would say to the guy: “Do you think you can figure it out before it becomes a problem for me?” If he says yes, I give him a chance. If not, I find someone else.
If it is a beta male, I tell him to find someone who can get it done (empowering him to find a solution) and suggest that he tag along with them and learn from them. If I’m confident he can deliver afer her learns, he can do it next time the opportunity comes around.
Hope that helps.
“Lead, follow, or get out of the way,” I say. I went on a rant just last week when a client wanted to give a supplier yet one more chance to step up to the plate. I insisted they find another supplier — if the vendor isn’t committed wholeheartedly, my client runs the risk of her not meeting her obligations and the client being hung out to dry. I don’t care that they are friends, I don’t care that the former is trying to “help” the latter start her business. You are either in business to do business, or get out of the way of business happening. If the vendor isn’t bright enough to see and seize the opportunity, she better go back to thinking of her business as a hobby, ’cause that’s all she’s got!
I agree Chris. Too many people think they should get things just because they show up to work. If you want to move ahead in my company, make me money. If you are just answering the phone, don’t expect me to give you a raise or more time off. Order takers are easy to find these days. Long live the female Alphas! Liz, you rock!